Alliances / Loner (Isolationist)

Alliances / Loner (Isolationist)

In this post I'm talking about alliances and being a loner. These two constructions are vastly different in approach and execution. Whilst being an individual does have bonuses with standing and being committed to personal convictions, whereas having alliances gains traction, and sense of belonging.

A loner typically does not have this trait. A loner is someone whom is content with their own company, whom seeks fulfillment in personal goals, and is not swayed easily in any concept or socialized idiom.

Alliance is the ability to align with similar or like-minded people to causes, thought processes, and belief systems in that it embodies a society for the common good or ideal. Having a sound relationship with friends, good social interactions, and standing is grounds for alliance.

Having bipolar elicits both these foundations. Going at it alone gives me the ability to associate with self interests without being pressured into allegiances. The one downside with being a loner is that it carries significant social stigmas, and judgements which are misunderstood.

I've had to learn the hard way that people are going to be judgmental. That is the nature of things with life and bipolar. It is up to our personal self worth to distinguish between these two without becoming so distraught over it. Alliances and isolationism are so intertwined with politics, jobs, families, its a matter of walking ones inner path and mitigating them in the capacity of focusing on where we reside in recovery.

Plus these two take a delicate fine tuning component to be able to work. The biggest obstacle I have had is that sometimes I want to be isolated, whereas other times I seek social interaction. The challenges I have encountered are internalizing, or being out of place with my personality.  It is hard not to be in my head a good portion of the time so this can create more conflict than usual.

The problems I have faced with bipolar and isolationism/alliances is that I would start questioning peoples motives, and internal motivations. It can really be a devastating thing to incur especially when one doesn't have the right tool to discern forth honest versus dishonest.

This can be a bit of bitter pill because as we grow into adulthood and having bipolar, these become amplified with people we don't know, or situations we aren't all that familiar with. Either way, the one thing to remember here is that no matter, its okay to have both of these elements. Sometimes one doesn't want a lot of attention or company, and other times its okay to be social. Its a matter of balancing the two and not heaving and chucking oneself to one side or the other.

Finally, alliances/isolationism is an environmental factor and how this function and designation effects bipolar.  There is careful planning and learning new coping strategies, because life, friends, jobs, all manner of situations change. The one thing that has saved me is having strong ethics, personal accountability, and knowing the difference between hate, and understanding. Thanks for reading.

B.