Saying No(In A World Of Yes)

Saying No: (In A World Of Yes)

Take these examples:
 
I want you to manage 50 people with a fortune 500 company.

I want you to wash my car, watch the kids, make dinner, and paint the house.

I want you to be you, do what you think is the best for your day.

Each of these statements has a pronounce level of intensity. That intensity can overwhelm, which causes duress, and often can put one into complete panic mode. For the casual observer the thing that strikes people with mental illness isn't in the fact of living with, but also having to incur vocal iteration, inflection, tone, and body language as to what is happening in that moment.

All of this is happening consecutively with families, personal relationships, and employment. Somewhere in there, a balance has to be sought in order to find solace, and peace. Its not without its work though, bipolar for example takes a lot of effort controlling emotions/thoughts, incurring self management, and integrating positive construction with coping in a atmosphere of serenity, or toxicity.

In my ongoing recovery it is a process of creating healthy boundaries, and dedicated relationships that do not harm my development. I know what I can do, and I know I cannot do. I know exactly when my boundaries are being pushed, and when they are not. Overall it is important to say no when all avenues have been explored. That I am also respected for when I stand up for what I believe is right, and be respected in how I say and carry myself.

Invariably, there is going to be judgement. One cannot avoid that. It is the nature of the beast. But, where one can at least alleviate and tone of the toxicity, and boundary issues by taking that first step in exercising not being taken advantage of.  In that chaos feeds chaos, drama feeds drama, and conflict...you get the idea. Once something snowballs, its hard to slow down.

With all of these things, one critical element that remains, I had to learn to say no, because of my designation, I didn't feel respected in what I could bring to the table. A lot of that I think is because there are those out there who take advantage of the unprepared. I made a conscious decision to stake claim to my life and not be ruled by others. It is important to understand what your offering, while keeping in mind the respect of your worth.

Saying no in a world of yes is so apt in today's landscape as things are changing, and there are divisions that have taken place with regards to work ethic, and self worth. It is paramount to stick your vision, and remember there will be other avenues, and endeavors that will open up. The key point here is to learn patience, as this is something of a misnomer with bipolar. Thanks for reading.

B